How to Get a Boyfriend
Are you ready to "go steady?" Here you'll find general instructions for how to get a boyfriend. While every person and every relationship is different, there are a few foolproof ways to help your chances of making it official.
Steps
Just be yourself. Guys do not like girls when they try to be someone else. Guys usually want to be with YOU, not a cheap imitation.
Make him feel comfortable. Guys have to do the nerve wrecking job of asking a girl out. You must give him the courage to ask you out. When you're talking to him, make sure you're talking to him and not looking around. Remember, it's not ok to be fake around him.
Think about what qualities you're looking for. Grab a piece of paper and write down some things that are attractive to you. Things such as brains, appearance, sense of humor (if it's for humor always laugh and smile at his jokes- but, if you don't think it's funny don't laugh or he will get the wrong impression), or sensitivity. Don't just like a guy because of his appearance.
Get outside, spread your wings, and do something with your life! You should sign up for a club or sport, but remember, don't do a sport because everybody else is doing it or just to flirt with guys. Do what you enjoy doing.
Stand out and impress the boy. To get noticed by a boy go up and start a conversation telling him your name, what school you go to, what your job is, etc. This will not only impress the boy, but it will show him that you're confident and self-reliant, which are very attractive qualities to see.
Get to know him. More often than not, girls become fixated with a fantasy that they know the guy can't fit into. Make sure you're not leading the boy on and show him how you feel. Remember that in a conversation you must talk AND listen. Show interest, as meeting new people should be interesting, but also remember to talk about your own hobbies during your conversations. Look for not only differences, but similarities as well!
Become a friend, but not immediately. Remember not to be fake, one day he will realize you're not being yourself. Slowly build up trust with this boy. More often than not, if you rush into things your heart will get broken. Boys may begin to think you're too aggressive if you move to fast which is a bad thing.
See if the boy likes you too. Read the signs.
NEVER pressure someone into liking you. This will push them away not bring them closer. If they like you they like you, if they don't they don't. When you're flirting with the boy, is he flirting with you? Flirting is always a good sign that someone likes you.
Show him how you can be an amazing friend. Instead of letting him see your unattractive features, show him what really makes you stand out! Get the most out of your appearance and brains, regardless of whether you're intelligent, unintelligent, pretty, and not so pretty. Show the boy who you really are.
Ask him out or keep repeating the steps above while he comes around on his own.
Boyfriends are nice to have. but sometimes it's easier to just wait until love finds you, because if you just continue to search for what you see on the outside, you might just have already passed by the man of your dreams. Even if he isn't extremely attractive. The things that last the longest take the longest to get. Appearance, wealth, and confidence aren't necessarily permanent, but goodness is forever. Don't go into a relationship trying to force the boy to be more like you. It won't happen and you're just kidding yourself.
Tips
Relax and act like yourself.
When you feel the time is right, ask him out, but don't wait too long or someone else might take him! What have you got to lose?
Before you make the move, make sure you aren't being sexually harassed because guys don't want to date girls if other guys take her as a free-for-all. If you are being harassed you got to end it, tell them to stop , do what ever it takes to get them off before you even THINK about dating!!!
Try and get to the point where you feel like you don't "need" a boyfriend, THEN they'll flock to you, confidence is the key.
You want to lower his risk that you will reject him.
Make it obvious that you like him. Guys can be a little slow here especially if they have been rejected before.
Letting him know you are not dating anyone else lowers the risk of rejection for the guy. The better guys will be turned off if they feel like you are trying to date everyone.
Resolve old hurts and disappointments. Make sure you're ready for a new relationship by setting aside any grievances about old boyfriends.
Sometimes what we want is right under our noses. There might be several guys in your life who've you've never been romantically interested in but who might make wonderful boyfriends. If you're looking for someone who's got more depth and dedication, and more than just popularity and good looks, reconsider where you're looking and who you're looking at.
Every time you see him, smile at him and give him a little wave.
This article is about how to get a boyfriend. Details about how to meet guys, look attractive, garner his interest, etc. can be found in the Related wikiHows below.
Guys can be slow to notice subtle clues. If he's not taking the hint, flat out ask him out!
Guys are complicated, some judge your appearance before your personality, make sure you don't get some guy who says he likes you, when really all he wants to do is stare at your body.
Always let your parents and your family know you have a boyfriend before you and a boy are involved with each other.
Always be open, truthful sensible and honest, not just yourself and your boyfriend, but also with parents and family as well- remember honesty, truthfulness, openness, and sensibility is always the best policy. Remember relationships only work on love, commitment, openness, trust, working things out together, and honesty.
Introduce your boyfriend to your parents. This doesn't have to be a big formal deal, but let them get to know him in a fun, informal setting.
Follow your heart and your instincts.
Signs of an abusive relationship - Spot the danger signs
Physical e.g. hitting, shoving, burning, kicking, restraining etc.
Verbal/Emotional e.g. shouting/yelling at you, name-calling, hurtful comments, telling you are a waste of space, useless, ridiculing, checking up on you all the time, constant criticizing and put-downs, hurtful teasing
Sexual e.g. forcing you/enticing you to have sex against your will/consent/wishes or any other form of sexual activity against your will/consent/wishes.
Never talk to a guy every day: he may just think you want to be his friend talk to him once a while then build but also show you have other guy friends.
Make sure that he is interested in you, and that you two make connections and have chemistry.
Make sure that he is someone that you would like to be around, get to know him. Never be to fast or pushy take things slow and see where it goes.
Try to spot someone that you want, then become friends with him.
never date someone just cause you can't get anyone else, just wait and the perfect boy will come round one day.
Try not to hang around guy-friends too much when trying to get a guy. If you get one/already have one don't hang around them too much. They might think you are cheating.
Try to become friends with the person you likes mates and so you will be off to a good start.
When he asks you out don't sound desperate just say "yeah,we could meet up tonight if you want",smile at him and walk off with your mates!
Warnings
Keep the knowledge of you liking this boy a secret unless you have some friends that you absolutely trust.
Do not constantly flirt with the guy you like.
Guys act like they like that constant flirting, but often they don't!
Never do anything you wouldn't feel good with after the fact.
Choose a boyfriend carefully. You don't want to look back and regret having started something that ended in disaster.
Looking for a boyfriend just because you feel insecure (i.e. you want to look good with someone by your side, all of your friends have boyfriends, you just like being liked, etc.) is a recipe for broken hearts and wasted time. This could really hurt who becomes your boyfriend.
Don't be obnoxious and just try to be exactly yourself.
Make sure you get that part-listener part in there because guys don't like chatterboxes but also make sure you get that part-talker part in too because a conversation DOES involve two people!
When you get a boyfriend, don't feel pressured to have sex. If he asks you and you're not ready, refuse. You need a guy who will respect your decisions. Don't pressure him either.
When you're trying to attract a boy don't change. He will think you're acting fake and this will deter him from liking you.
Note how he interacts with others, his friends and others alike. You don't want to be stuck with a guy who's nice to certain people but a jerk otherwise.
Don't tell a lot of people if you like a boy. This will only cause problems if you get found out.
Give the guy some space.
Be careful if you have a friend that he used to date, because it might get nasty.
Don't become what you're not just to have something in common with him. For example: If he is emo, and you're not, don't try to change your look and attitude just to get his attention. Be yourself!
WARNING- do NOT take all of this advice, some of it is good, some of it is crap lol loh!
